OBSERVING COMMUNICATION

THE OBSERVATION THAT I MADE THIS WEEK WAS THAT OF MY COUSIN TALKING TO HER THREE YEAR OLD GRANDSON.
I WAS OUT SHOPPING WITH MY SON WHEN I RAN INTO MY COUSIN AND HER THREE YEAR OLD GRANDSON. THEY WERE IN THE AISLE WHERE ALL OF THE VALENTINE STUFF WAS AT. ON THE SHELF THERE WAS THIS BIG BROWN TEDDY BEAR THAT SONG YOU ARE SPECIAL. MY COUSIN GRANDSON WAS TELLING HIS GRANDMOTHER HOW MUCH HE NEEDED AND WANTED THAT BEAR. MY COUSIN LISTENED PATIENTLY (AND THAT IS VERY UNUSUAL FOR HER) AS HER GRANDSON TOLD HER WHY HE NEEDED THE BEAR. AFTER LISTENING TO HIM TALK SHE SPOKE AND SAID ‘K’, NANNY CAN NOT AFFORD TO BUY YOU THIS BEAR NOW, THIS WAS NOT APART OF THE DEAL WHEN WE CAME IN THE STORE, YOU TOLD ME YOU WANTED THIS BALL AND THAT IS WHAT YOU HAVE. REMEMBER NANNY TOLD YOU THAT WE DO NOT ALWAYS GET WHAT WE WANT AND THAT IF YOU CRY OR HAVE A TANTRUM THEN NANNY WAS GOING TO BE VERY HURT AND DISAPPOINTED, REMEMBER YOU TOLD ME YOU WHERE A BIG BOY AND BIG BOYS KNOW THAT SOMETIMES WE HAVE TO WAIT ON THINGS WE CAN NOT ALWAYS GET WHAT WE WANT OR LIKE. KJ, LOOKED AT MY COUSIN AND SAID YES NANNY CAUSE YOU WANT ME TO BE A BIG BOY.
He looked very sad after that conversation with my cousin but he also appeared to understand what she was saying.
The most important point that I can relate to our reading that Stephenson made is that in order to communicate effectively we must be good listeners (2009). 　
　
Reference
Stephenson, A. (2009). Conversations with a 2-year-old. YC: Young Children, 64(2), 90-95. Retrieved from the Walden Library using the Education Research Complete
　
Erica Hines